13. Giving Advice.

Lucy shocks Sam!

Practice: Giving advice
Revision: how're things going with…. ? - settle down - present perfect - change my mind  -
                    suggest  -  why don't + pronoun...? 

Vocabulary
how about...?  -  to make a suggestion; give advice, (+ ing or noun) i.e.
  • How about taking a weekend break in Paris next month?
- What can I buy Susie for her birthday?
- How about a really nice watch?
*Also What about...?

how're things going  -  a) a general question about someone's life; b) a specific question, i.e.
a)  Hi, how're things going?
b)  How're things going with your new job?
Also: 
Hi, how's it going?
How's it going with your new job?
How's your new job going?


(to) settle down  -  
a) to get a job, live in one place;
and, often, to marry, i.e.
  • You're thirty and still living like a teenager. When are you going to settle down?
    Also:  He travelled a lot but eventually settled in Denmark.

b) be quiet, be calm - usually used in this meaning to children.
  • The children were running around like crazy all afternoon; I couldn't get them to settle down.
  • This class is too noisy, please, settle down.

suggest  -   to introduce an idea or plan. Four basic structures, i.e.
+ that + clause, i.e.     
  • I suggest that you see a doctor.
  • She suggests that you apply for university now.

+ ing, i.e.
  • I suggest seeing a doctor.
  • She suggested applying for university now.

+ pronoun, i.e.    
  • I suggest you see a doctor.
  • She suggests you apply for university now.

+ noun, (usually in answer to a question)
 - What shall we have for dinner this evening?
 - I suggest pizza.
                                           
Why don't you…?  -  putting forward an idea or giving advice, i.e.
- I can't give up smoking?
- Why don't you try chewing nicotine gum?

- Where shall we go on holiday this year? How about Greece?'
- Why don't we stay in this country and go camping for a change?

If I was/were you...  -  usually, to give advice, i.e.
- I'm exhausted. I had to work a twelve-hour shift.
- If I were you I'd find another job.

  • I wouldn't go to that restaurant if I was you: the service was terrible and they charge
   *rip-off prices. 
*Verb: to rip someone off; Noun:  a rip-off  = to cheat; to charge an unfair price
Sam's sister, Lucy, tells Bill and Sam, that her boyfriend, Matt, has asked her to marry him. Bill and Sam are not pleased about this.

Complete the sentences.

Sam:
   So, how are things going with Matt?

Lucy:  Well, actually, Matt's asked me to marry him.

Sam:   He's what!?

Bill:     Lucy, you've only known him for three months.

Lucy:   I know but, well, I do love him and I feel I'm ready to settle down.

Sam:    Well, I you to think very carefully about this.

Lucy:   Yes, of course, I will.

Bill:       , Lucy, I'd take a break away from Matt for a week or two and really
                think about it.

Sam:     Yes, going away for a week somewhere quiet, Lucy, just you and me?

Bill:       Yes, do that, it's a good idea?

Lucy:     So Sam can get me to change my mind about Matt?

Sam:      No, but I'll be there if you want to talk to someone. I mean, you don't really know
                Matt that well, do you?

Lucy:     Yes, I do.

Bill:       But you haven't met any of his family yet.

Lucy:     No, they live in the north. But he's told me all about them.

Sam:      I you don't make any decision until you've met his family.

Bill:      Yes, you ask Matt to take you to meet them, Lucy.

Lucy:    Well, all right, yes, I will.


Exercise

Complete the sentences with the language you've practised.

if I were you  -  should  -  suggest  -  advise  -  why don't you...?  -  how about...? 

Don't forget to use a capital letter if necessary. 

1.    I think you take a holiday: you've been working very hard.

2.  - I'm not sure whether to go to university or take a year off?
     - discuss it with your teachers?

3.     I you to think very carefully before investing money in that company.

4.   - I need to give my garden a complete *makeover but I can't *come up with any ideas.
      - Well, I employing a garden designer.
      - I don't think I can afford that.
      - All right, then getting some instructional books and DVDs from local library?
      - Yes, that's a good idea.
       - And, , I'd start now in the spring; it's not a good idea to be creating a new
         garden in winter.

* a makeover = a tranformation, a remodelling of something, especially hair-style, make-up,
                              or clothes, i.e.  I need to give my whole appearance a makeover.

* come up with = (phrasal verb) to create an idea, a plan, a suggestion, i.e. 
                                Help me come up with come ideas for the party, please.